Acceptance

I have been struggling with a few things lately and I think that I am beginning to figure them out, or at least how to talk about what has been bugging me.
It's about acceptance! You have to accept the things that you can not change. I'm not trying to sound like an addictions counsellor, I really do mean it. We have to accept that everyone is different and will do things in their own way. The job will get done, perhaps not in the way that you would have done it, but done nevertheless. It seems to me that people get hung up on the how you did it sometimes and forget to accept that it got done. They focus on a misplaced word and miss the whole message, they notice the mismatched socks and miss the act of kindness. Why are we quick to point out the differences in each other and so slow to accept them and notice the positive things?
I think that we can change this one act at a time, every time someone complains to you about someone or something, point out the positive of the situation. They may, in the beginning, stop complaining to you but eventually they will begin to think of positive things to tell you and maybe even focus on. I really believe that this is a method for stopping negativity from spreading.